" I am not looking to escape my darkness. I am learning to love myself there." - Rune Lazuli
Self compassion is not something that we talk about often what is it? It is the ability to understand that we are not perfect but we are worthy as we are. I love that the word imperfect when broken up means “Im perfect.”
No one is perfect atleast not that I have met and we all have flaws that we can work on and improve on. Self compassion does not mean that you do not work on growing as a human being it means that you show yourself kindness as you work through your journey.
Many client come to session ready with a list of things they don't like about themselves and want to change but when I ask them who they are and what makes them think often times they are stumped. They struggle to know why they believe what they do or why they feel they need to change beyond it's what has been expected. Society has taught us that we need to be productive, social, but not too social, among other expectations. But do we really want to do these things? Will they really make us happy?
Most of the time the answer is no. This is the reason we try to implement various habits and changes and they don't stick. They don't stick because it's not something we actually want to do but instead it is something that we feel we have to do. Many of the things we hate about ourselves are things that others have disliked about us not things we actually dislike about ourselves to begin with.
Think of it this way, would you treat your friend the way you are treating yourself? If the answer is “no” then consider that and think of ways that you can treat yourself more as a friend. If you need any help and support with this process please reach out for a consultation so we can help you on your journey.
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